A Merkel 500 3 inch is beyond my tolerance!
An 11 pound 475#2 Jeffery is tolerable.
A 9.5 404 Jeffery at 2100 is tolerable.
a 10 pound 450/400 3 inch is very tolerable.
NE450#2's 450#2 with hunting loads is tolerable, but I wouldn't want to shoot it off the bench.

As stated above, recoil is a very personal experience.
I will turn 60 in December and I'll be the first to admit that I've turned into a recoil wuss! I don't like getting beat up any more!