Bigdog,
I have opened this thread many times and each time was unable to post anything, as my fingers couldn't type what my heart felt for you and your family. I tried to post some kind of response with my condolences and prayers.
It's been impossible to find the words as I can't even imagine what you have gone through. Your biggest job now is to keep your family strong helping each other cope with this tragedy.
My prayes and best wishes for you and your family to stay strong and find the strength in each other.